Why children lie and what to do if your child is cheating?
  "Our son/daughter is lying! What do we do?" is a frequent complaint of parents in the office of a child psychologist. Parents wonder why their child is lying, because…

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The Spoiled child in the first year of life
  This question comes from parents already in the first few weeks, if the baby is fussy between feedings, instead of sleep. If you put him in the crib, it…

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If the child does not want to learn

 

If the child does not want to learn, it is useless to push, to force and to swear – that you only detach themselves from it, will become his enemy. You first need to understand why all this is happening in your family: why the child does not want to study and why you so passionately desire.

– My idiot alone two wears. Don’t know what to do with it. Mind alone toys computer. Already limited it access – is not helping. Was talking to him. “I’m not interested, – says, – I don’t understand”.

Yes, this is a problem for many parents. They want to see their child ’ s…well why Einstein? – this is not necessary. Even if the Institute will go”. They want it to be “no worse than average” or “at least above average” or “best”.

Well, let’s sort things out. Tell me, why you need all this? Maybe this is a stupid question, and it’s so natural to want. …But still, try to answer it. Ask yourself: “Why would I want my child was a good student?”

We all know that the very Einstein studied is not so hot. And for sure, many people know of the examples of very happy and lucky people who have not studied well. Conversely, there are many examples of instances Continue reading

The Psychological development of boys. Tips for parents on parenting sons

 

It is our greatest misfortune — we look at boys as on some winding machines, which create a constant, annoying noise and it does not require any care or communication or participation from parents. In fact, at the heart of every little boy secretly lives a hero — a little Huck Finn or Tarzan that’s just waiting to show their physical strength in a fight with a powerful enemy, and to gain approval and recognition of its uniqueness.

Experiments have shown that girls and boys use completely different approaches to establishing relations with other people. Even before the moment of birth, boys are more physical activity. Already in the eighth month of pregnancy in their blood testosterone appears; from this moment begins the physiological changes that are characteristic of boys. Attention newborn girls focused on faces and sounds, newborn boys and pain­above all attracted by moving objects. The speaking and listening skills develop slower in boys, but many parents notice the precision with which they imitate such sounds as the noise of the engine, — and begin to do it much sooner than trying to reproduce the words. In the process of speech development, almost all the sounds of the girls, Continue reading

The Paradoxes of Japanese education

 

Education of the individual in Japan is very different from traditional education in other countries. Those rude phrases, which are easy to hear on our playgrounds: “you’re bad”, “now I will punish you” it is impossible to imagine there. Even if the little Japanese boy would fight with my mother or felt-tip pen to draw on the white door of the store, no strict punishments and reprimands will not follow. Up to 5-6 years old child here everything is allowed. Such liberal tradition of educating absolutely not fit into our ideas about how to raise children.

The basis of education in Japanese society is a tolerant and friendly attitude to a young child. Such permissiveness in childhood, adult Japanese citizens are law-abiding and ability to live by the interests of the team and company.

What we consider minor offences: beer behind the wheel, a conflict with a fight on holiday, journey on forbidding signal of a traffic light, – it is impossible for Japanese. To live is required by the rules. Break the rules (“losing face”). That in Japan, children are taught from early childhood, is the basis of education.

Amazing result? Actually, the education of the individual in Japanese society is constructed so that Continue reading

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