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Le Shang E. When your child drives you crazy

 

I was standing near the escalator and suddenly noticed a young mother who tried to force her daughter to stand on a moving stage. The child, who looked about four years, lagged behind, clinging to the railing and cried: “no, No, mom, I’m scared!” The mother, whose hands were full of parcels, continued to pull the child “don’t be such a baby, and she said to her – I’m embarrassed for you. There is nothing terrible”.

At this point, tall silver-haired man, who was waiting to get on the escalator, leaned over to the little girl and said, “You know what it is? This is the ladder for young rabbits. At night when the store is closed, they jump on the stairs. It’s their favorite game. But during the day the rabbits are scared of people and hide, allowing boys and girls to go on their stairs for the night.” The girl looked at him. Then with a serious expression trustingly took his hand and together they went up the escalator.

“How wonderful”, I thought to myself. Must this man has children and grandchildren, since he knows so well to distract the child. But something about this situation forced me to return again and again to her. Everything was so cute and yet something was wrong.

I realized this later on tonight. The trouble was that although the girl and persuaded to climb the escalator, Continue reading

MOM, I’m SCARED! When your child drives you crazy

MOM, I’M SCARED!

I was standing near the escalator and suddenly noticed a young mother who tried to force her daughter to stand on a moving stage. The child, who looked about four years, lagged behind, clinging to the railing and cried: “No, no, mom, I’m scared!” The mother, whose hands were full of parcels, continued to pull the child “don’t be such a baby, and she said to her – I’m embarrassed for you. There is nothing terrible”.

At this point, tall silver-haired man, who was waiting to get on the escalator, leaned over to the little girl and said, “You know what it is? This is the ladder for young rabbits. At night when the store is closed, they jump on the stairs. It’s their favorite game. But during the day the rabbits are scared of people and hide, allowing boys and girls to go through their steps to night”. The girl looked at him. Then with a serious expression trustingly took his hand and together they went up the escalator.

“wonderful”, I thought to myself. Must this man has children and grandchildren, since he knows so well to distract the child. But something about this situation forced me to return Continue reading

Children’s fear

 

And what are the fears caused by the aggression of the child?

As you know, fear in children is a frequent phenomenon. But I didn’t expect that my child will have so clearly expressed anger, aggression in relation to everything around him.

In the subconscious of children are imprinted repetitive, stirring, causing turbulent emotions, the actions, moods that surround it, especially the habits of the parents. Not only behavior, but also adults who have influence in the process of education, training, communication, eats into nature, creating a personality. So in my articles under the concepts of father, mother, one should bear in mind not necessarily blood relatives, and those adults who had an influence in my childhood. Which can be not only a stepfather, stepmother, grandfather, grandmother, and aunt, a teacher in an orphanage and etc.

Complexes that affect so much in my entire life, from childhood, are from the subconscious. Quarrels and conflicts, various aggressive manifestations, is actually not happen because of those little things that are supposedly the cause, but because of unconscious internal hostility that parents were able to sow in kids. Children are shown outside of the parent complexes, fears that they fit into the character of children. Parents have to face Continue reading