Education of the individual in Japan is very different from traditional education in other countries. Those rude phrases, which are easy to hear on our playgrounds: “you’re bad”, “now I will punish you” it is impossible to imagine there. Even if the little Japanese boy would fight with my mother or felt-tip pen to draw on the white door of the store, no strict punishments and reprimands will not follow. Up to 5-6 years old child here everything is allowed. Such liberal tradition of educating absolutely not fit into our ideas about how to raise children.
The basis of education in Japanese society is a tolerant and friendly attitude to a young child. Such permissiveness in childhood, adult Japanese citizens are law-abiding and ability to live by the interests of the team and company.
What we consider minor offences: beer behind the wheel, a conflict with a fight on holiday, journey on forbidding signal of a traffic light, – it is impossible for Japanese. To live is required by the rules. Break the rules (“losing face”). That in Japan, children are taught from early childhood, is the basis of education.
Amazing result? Actually, the education of the individual in Japanese society is constructed so that Continue reading
«Children must love their parents. They’ll only love their children» — write about it often. And you — do you agree? Children should love their parents? Here are a few stories from the life: what do you think about them?
… Father and mother raised three sons. They are all different, but they have in common is reverence to parents: all of them, with their families, are constantly coming to my parents. One of them’s wife (daughter in law) even jealous of mother (in-law).
… Children grew up in a prosperous family, was educated, but once “stood up”, I forgot about your parents – do not write, do not call, do not come.
… adopted child in the family who knows about her mother, deprived of parental rights because of alcoholism. In no need, his love. But he often calls me mother (biological), just to hear her voice, though she knew not want.
… the Children grow up in a “dysfunctional” family, was subjected to physical and moral humiliation. The parents are deprived of parental rights and children sent to the orphanage. Now they still love their mom and dad and waiting for each to visit them.
… the woman had three girls from different men. The girls grew up and went away Continue reading
And what are the fears caused by the aggression of the child?
As you know, fear in children is a frequent phenomenon. But I didn’t expect that my child will have so clearly expressed anger, aggression in relation to everything around him.
In the subconscious of children are imprinted repetitive, stirring, causing turbulent emotions, the actions, moods that surround it, especially the habits of the parents. Not only behavior, but also adults who have influence in the process of education, training, communication, eats into nature, creating a personality. So in my articles under the concepts of father, mother, one should bear in mind not necessarily blood relatives, and those adults who had an influence in my childhood. Which can be not only a stepfather, stepmother, grandfather, grandmother, and aunt, a teacher in an orphanage and etc.
Complexes that affect so much in my entire life, from childhood, are from the subconscious. Quarrels and conflicts, various aggressive manifestations, is actually not happen because of those little things that are supposedly the cause, but because of unconscious internal hostility that parents were able to sow in kids. Children are shown outside of the parent complexes, fears that they fit into the character of children. Parents have to face Continue reading