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If the child does not want to learn

 

If the child does not want to learn, it is useless to push, to force and to swear – that you only detach themselves from it, will become his enemy. You first need to understand why all this is happening in your family: why the child does not want to study and why you so passionately desire.

– My idiot alone two wears. Don’t know what to do with it. Mind alone toys computer. Already limited it access – is not helping. Was talking to him. “I’m not interested, – says, – I don’t understand”.

Yes, this is a problem for many parents. They want to see their child ’ s…well why Einstein? – this is not necessary. Even if the Institute will go”. They want it to be “no worse than average” or “at least above average” or “best”.

Well, let’s sort things out. Tell me, why you need all this? Maybe this is a stupid question, and it’s so natural to want. …But still, try to answer it. Ask yourself: “Why would I want my child was a good student?”

We all know that the very Einstein studied is not so hot. And for sure, many people know of the examples of very happy and lucky people who have not studied well. Conversely, there are many examples of instances Continue reading

Why kids can’t hear us or don’t want to hear?

 

“I told him 10 times already said – and he is “zero” reactions! Did you even hear me?” Sometimes, parents may infuriate the situation when the child ignores their requests, pretends he can’t hear, don’t do so, as requested by parents. He quietly continues its exciting activities, or Vice versa protesting, rebelling and doing the opposite. Options child on our statements can be varied, but a rebuke of parents one – he does not want me to listen, I have the feeling that me he never hears!

Why is this happening? Because a little child is not making plans on how to kill their parents, to teach them a lesson, and educate. His reactions are more like an automatic reaction, a reflection of our relationship with him. And if the child cannot hear you, it is a litmus test, showing that you exist at different wavelengths with their child that the cooperative relationship between us.

And that could serve this. We would like to enumerate the reasons that lead to this result:

The most harmless and easily correctable option, when the child really cannot hear you due to the fact that immersed in the game state, in the world of fantasy . He is so fascinated by this that wafting voice is just not seen. Generally, the child’s play is better not to interrupt, without special occasion. But if the occasion is really important, first make sure that Continue reading

Lying or fantasizing?

You suddenly feel that what your child says is far from the truth. How to recognize harmless whether it’s fantasy or outright lies, for which there is a reluctance to tell you the truth, and what to do in such cases:

To identify lying or fantasizing your kid, not an easy task. Remember the story of Nikolay Nosov’s “the Dreamers”. Two boys sit on a bench and tell each other stories about bitten off by a shark head and flying to the moon. There’s a new hero, hearing their conversation, said no good on their fantasies, no. And told his story about how he was yesterday, having eaten half a tin of jam, pinned it on his sister, resulting in the mother punished her, and gave him an extra portion of sweet. Border of lies and fantasy is obvious.

Why child fantasizes?

It is we adults believe that the world is reality, the truth of life. The child’s relationship with the world that surrounds them – are different. A world in which the baby lives, filled not only real, but also fabulous events. Children dream to try on the role of a magician, and therefore fantasize. Don’t stop baby, unleash children’s imagination. It is useful for its development.

As a rule, children begin to invent in 3-4 years, and 5-6 is already struggling fantasize. They believe in good and evil wizards. They believe Continue reading