Lying or fantasizing?
You suddenly feel that what your child says is far from the truth. How to recognize harmless whether it's fantasy or outright lies, for which there is a reluctance to…

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How not to raise children
  Plump volume and even entire libraries written about how to raise children, and there is nothing I will not add. Just because we don't know how. I know how…

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Gatchina toys Tsarevich Paul.

to See my son for the first time after birth Catherine had only six weeks when she took a cleansing prayer. Then the Empress is the second time I came to her room and ordered her Paul.

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Pavel Petrovich in infancy

“I thought he was really good, writes Catherine, and view it somewhat amused me, but as soon as prayers were over, the Emperor at once ordered to be taken away, and she left.” The third time Paul showed the mother at her request only in the spring, on the occasion of the departure of the Grand-Ducal couple in Oranienbaum; to get to his bedroom, she had to go through all chambers of the Empress and found him in a terrible stuffiness. But smart, European-educated mother could not immediately suppress my natural concern for my son and from a distance, with sorrow, followed the direction that he gave his initial education of good-natured, but strictly adhering to old-fashioned Russian traditions Empress Elizabeth.

Pavel Petrovich as a landlord’s son, passed gradually into the hands of ignorant female servants, with fear cared only about how to protect and grooming Barsky child left without parental care and supervision: even before the christening Paul, had almost died from thrush.

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The Psychological development of boys. Tips for parents on parenting sons

 

It is our greatest misfortune — we look at boys as on some winding machines, which create a constant, annoying noise and it does not require any care or communication or participation from parents. In fact, at the heart of every little boy secretly lives a hero — a little Huck Finn or Tarzan that’s just waiting to show their physical strength in a fight with a powerful enemy, and to gain approval and recognition of its uniqueness.

Experiments have shown that girls and boys use completely different approaches to establishing relations with other people. Even before the moment of birth, boys are more physical activity. Already in the eighth month of pregnancy in their blood testosterone appears; from this moment begins the physiological changes that are characteristic of boys. Attention newborn girls focused on faces and sounds, newborn boys and pain­above all attracted by moving objects. The speaking and listening skills develop slower in boys, but many parents notice the precision with which they imitate such sounds as the noise of the engine, — and begin to do it much sooner than trying to reproduce the words. In the process of speech development, almost all the sounds of the girls, Continue reading

Why kids can’t hear us or don’t want to hear?

 

“I told him 10 times already said – and he is “zero” reactions! Did you even hear me?” Sometimes, parents may infuriate the situation when the child ignores their requests, pretends he can’t hear, don’t do so, as requested by parents. He quietly continues its exciting activities, or Vice versa protesting, rebelling and doing the opposite. Options child on our statements can be varied, but a rebuke of parents one – he does not want me to listen, I have the feeling that me he never hears!

Why is this happening? Because a little child is not making plans on how to kill their parents, to teach them a lesson, and educate. His reactions are more like an automatic reaction, a reflection of our relationship with him. And if the child cannot hear you, it is a litmus test, showing that you exist at different wavelengths with their child that the cooperative relationship between us.

And that could serve this. We would like to enumerate the reasons that lead to this result:

The most harmless and easily correctable option, when the child really cannot hear you due to the fact that immersed in the game state, in the world of fantasy . He is so fascinated by this that wafting voice is just not seen. Generally, the child’s play is better not to interrupt, without special occasion. But if the occasion is really important, first make sure that Continue reading