“I told him 10 times already said – and he is “zero” reactions! Did you even hear me?” Sometimes, parents may infuriate the situation when the child ignores their requests, pretends he can’t hear, don’t do so, as requested by parents. He quietly continues its exciting activities, or Vice versa protesting, rebelling and doing the opposite. Options child on our statements can be varied, but a rebuke of parents one – he does not want me to listen, I have the feeling that me he never hears!
Why is this happening? Because a little child is not making plans on how to kill their parents, to teach them a lesson, and educate. His reactions are more like an automatic reaction, a reflection of our relationship with him. And if the child cannot hear you, it is a litmus test, showing that you exist at different wavelengths with their child that the cooperative relationship between us.
And that could serve this. We would like to enumerate the reasons that lead to this result:
The most harmless and easily correctable option, when the child really cannot hear you due to the fact that immersed in the game state, in the world of fantasy . He is so fascinated by this that wafting voice is just not seen. Generally, the child’s play is better not to interrupt, without special occasion. But if the occasion is really important, first make sure that Continue reading
«Children must love their parents. They’ll only love their children» — write about it often. And you — do you agree? Children should love their parents? Here are a few stories from the life: what do you think about them?
… Father and mother raised three sons. They are all different, but they have in common is reverence to parents: all of them, with their families, are constantly coming to my parents. One of them’s wife (daughter in law) even jealous of mother (in-law).
… Children grew up in a prosperous family, was educated, but once “stood up”, I forgot about your parents – do not write, do not call, do not come.
… adopted child in the family who knows about her mother, deprived of parental rights because of alcoholism. In no need, his love. But he often calls me mother (biological), just to hear her voice, though she knew not want.
… the Children grow up in a “dysfunctional” family, was subjected to physical and moral humiliation. The parents are deprived of parental rights and children sent to the orphanage. Now they still love their mom and dad and waiting for each to visit them.
… the woman had three girls from different men. The girls grew up and went away Continue reading
And what are the fears caused by the aggression of the child?
As you know, fear in children is a frequent phenomenon. But I didn’t expect that my child will have so clearly expressed anger, aggression in relation to everything around him.
In the subconscious of children are imprinted repetitive, stirring, causing turbulent emotions, the actions, moods that surround it, especially the habits of the parents. Not only behavior, but also adults who have influence in the process of education, training, communication, eats into nature, creating a personality. So in my articles under the concepts of father, mother, one should bear in mind not necessarily blood relatives, and those adults who had an influence in my childhood. Which can be not only a stepfather, stepmother, grandfather, grandmother, and aunt, a teacher in an orphanage and etc.
Complexes that affect so much in my entire life, from childhood, are from the subconscious. Quarrels and conflicts, various aggressive manifestations, is actually not happen because of those little things that are supposedly the cause, but because of unconscious internal hostility that parents were able to sow in kids. Children are shown outside of the parent complexes, fears that they fit into the character of children. Parents have to face Continue reading